Emotional Turmoil; when Your Emotion run ahead of your thought. 

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The way you think, the way you feel & The way you feel, the way you think.

But,  the obvious fact is –

for different people, different things run first.

Today, For most of the people, their thoughts run first/ahead of their emotions largely because of the type of Education.

But, still, there are some percentage of people for whom their emotion run ahead of their thought. 

So, in life, there are the situations you don’t wish to IN, but the emotions entangled up, so thoughts keep going there and unknowingly you keep walking in the direction.

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What you need to understand is -

Thoughts are not permanent.

Today my thought may be –

S/he is the most wonderful person.

Tomorrow is s/he does something, which I don’t like,

Immediately My thought says – S/he is no good.

Emotions are not like thoughts, It doesn’t turn around quickly. It takes time.

So, if my emotion has gone ahead with this person, the trauma Starts/ you struggle because –

The thoughts say – S/he is not OK.

But, emotions are still entangled. So, the person remains confused to face the struggle.

So, what should we do about it?

Don’t try to control your emotions and thoughts because the very nature of mind is such that –

If I don’t want to think about this person … means

That’s the only person  I am going to think for the rest of my Life.

So,  when compulsive thoughts and emotions come, 

First and foremost thing that we should do is –

We should simply see them for what they are. Don’t try to resist them because the moment we resist, it will multiply. In this human mind, it’s only addition and multiplication(not subtraction and division).

So, just understand that thoughts and emotions are just recycled of data that are already there, something that you remember.

It is just that memory(little smelly type), is just keep coming. We need to just see them from little distance.

For example like –

When we get stuck in traffic Jam, how much anxiety and struggle we had.

But, when we are up, looking from high like flying from Aeroplane,

We come up and look down – how nice the traffic jam looks. Hmmmmm

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It’s the world worst traffic jam. Looks colorful isn’t it?

(Simply because of Little Distance)

Still the same traffic jam, but because there is a distance.

Similarly,

We need to act with our thoughts and emotions. 

A little bit of practice to create a litttttttttttle distance from your physiological processes and our psychological processes come into good control automatically.

But, if we try to handle individual thoughts and emotion, they will multiply 1000 times more.

 

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May Maa DURGA empower You and your family With her nine incarnations of Name, Fame, Health, Wealth, Happiness, Humanity, Education, Bhakti & Shakti

Religious Thoughts with Sadguru.

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Navratri is coming now, Literally means – Nine Nights.

Why this Navratri is?

Every month after new moon day i.e. after Amavasya(Dark moon lunar phase), days are counted, the 9th day is called NAVAMI i.e. ninth and 9th day of a lunar half-month.

These 9 days are considered Feminine. Out of 28 days, one and half days i.e. nearly 36 hours is a neutral time when the full moon is On. So, 27 days are the days which are calculated in a certain way, which is significant. So, 1/3 of it is called the feminine part of it. The remaining 18 days are masculine in nature

So, When the feminine is On, the Devi thing is On, that’s why in tradition up to Navmi all the worship is for Devi.

In the tradition which comes from ancient India, where it was a very strong feminine worshipping processes and practices at every Navmi i.e. at every Nine Days in this twelve months, they were dedicated for different Devis.

The one which is coming now, which is called Dussehra dedicated for nine incarnations of Durga(Feminine nature of Divine) –

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  • Goddess Shailputri
  • Goddess BrahmachariniBrahmacharini
  • Goddess Chandraghanta
  • Goddess Kushmanda
  • Goddess Skandmata
  • Goddess Katyayani
  • Goddess Kaalratri
  • Goddess Mahagauri
  • Goddess Siddhidatri
Navratri - Symbolism of 3 Dimensions of Feminine

There are three gunas(quality, peculiarity, attribute, property), according to this worldview, that has always been and continues to be present in all things and beings in the world.

These three gunas(basic qualities of existence) are called –

!) Tamas(inactivity, idleness, hibernation)

Nature of Earth of your Birth, the moment you  come out then we start activity

and Rejas begins…

!!) Rajas (passion, active, confused)

If you are aware enough, the Sattva will touch you otherwise the color of Rajas is good as long it’s going well,  and when going is bad, Rajas is going be Super Bad.

First two are needed for survival and wellbeing.

iii) Sattva (goodness, constructive, harmonious)

This is the aspiration to go Beyond. Most don’t achieve it. They keep rotating between        !) and !!)

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Bottomline

These nine days, approach every aspect of life in a celebratory way,  i.e. non-serious way but absolutely involved.

Problem with most human being is –

If they think something is important, they will become deadly serious about it.

If they think it’s not so important, they don’t show necessity involvement.

That’s not it the passage. So that you don’t miss any point.

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Here is actually nothing more difficult on the planet than another Person

You can picture this picture in your life with just making difficult things easy. You CAN.

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but often,

Why dealing with people is difficult?

Relationships are difficult, But why?

Most people know this. Most people think it’s because of  Money, Sex, Kids, Work or who pickups the socks. Some people think it’s because we just not the right for each other or we don’t have enough in common.

Look,

it’s not just you or him/her, there is actually nothing more difficult on the planet than another person. Think about that.

We all are difficult, we all come to each new relationship morning easy, but we also come other fair shares to resolve painful experience from previous relationships between love and work. Love is by form more complex and challenging. The much of reason for this is based on our automatic neurobiological reflections.

So, let me explain.

If you see your brain,

There you will find

Neocortex brain
Very smart-Deliberate but Slow. But very expensive to run. It’s really good at Planning, predicting, organizing, languages. Really Good at making SHUT-UP.
Subcortical brain
Very fast, memory based. automatic and very cheap to run. Good at threat detection by scanning dangerous faces, voices, gesture, movement, words, and phrases

 

 

Thanks to Subcortical, where a day is 99%  fully automatic.  It uses procedural memory or body-memory.

Neocortex offloads the nuance in subcortical in order to conserve resources.

One simple example

You learn to ride a bike and in the beginning, your Neocortex and Subcortical are in full gear to learn this new skill. But very soon, your Subcortical are going to automate the bike riding. It goes to procedural memory.

Pretty good, ehhhh.

Now coming on point-

Now you fall in love with someone and again your brain is lit-up. You want to know everything about them, wanna touch them, feel them, taste them, smell them, you wanna get enough of them. You are high on drugs. It’s natural or nature drugs.

You are neurochemically addicted now.

So, you spent on your time together, for weeks, for months and you get serious.

And here the fun begins...

because very soon your brain is gonna automate this new person and there gonna automate you. This is supposed to happen. It’s what the brain does to function. It makes to feel the relationship lot easier.

It leads to the first very big mistake.

So, because you think you know each other already. YOU STOP PAYING ATTENTION. YOU STOP PAYING FULLY PRESENCE.

Your subcortical are relying on procedural memory to run your relationship and that memory includes everyone and everything on emotional importance in your life and primitive brain of your is going to read your partner’s thoughts, feelings, and intentions through that memory lenses.

So, it's kind of like this-

Why you didn’t respond my call/presence.

–  I..i didn’t notice it that time.

– Why are you talking louder?

–  Loud, no, You are LOuder

– WHAT?

-WWHHHHAAT???

That’s the sound of two neuro-system misfiring. That’s our nature.

This will be the problem if you don’t understand your automatic brain. 

The real problem isn’t it, you fight. It one or both you threaten to live the relationship. A relationship can survive the fight, But it can’t survive the loss of safety and security, communication, memory.

Human communication is terrible. We misunderstand each other most of the time.

When we feel good, we don’t care that much. {Something strange}

When we don’t feel good, we care a lot.

Our perception is like fun-house. Our perceptions are constantly altered by our state of mind and memory. It’s playing tricks on us.

We think my perception, my thinking is correct and that’s the problem.

PROBLEMS…ISSUES…..FIGHT…

and our neocortex has actually no idea how got in this place. So, strongly we believe-

I am right, damn it.

and you sound confident.

To resolve such issue we need real-time understanding.

It happens to everyone, regardless of personality, experience. No angel and no devil here.

The world is a dangerous place and it’s always been so.

We need to understand, our major job is to protect each other and make each other safe and secure.

When it comes to joy, love, and exuberance of life, you should be the source of this. Instead of taking it all from others, we should try to share from within the self. 

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the Most basic thing to Understand now

  • Sustaining those moments of joy

 

If I tell you, or your Boss/ Dean of College tells you-

From tomorrow what kind of cloth you should wear,

If s/he goes further goes and

restricts you what should you eat compulsorily in the breakfast, next when to wake up and sleep.

Let’s you get compelled with ten such rules, like physical things to do.

Immediately there will be a protest in your mind or in that organization.

You will think s/he trying to convert you into slave and you sought and scream for your freedom, isn’t it?

It seems practical to do so. RIGHT???

because somebody else if they determine what should happen around you, you feel like a slave

Now,

Assume another scenario,

Right now

somebody else if they determining what should happen within you, ……what you feel again????

Isn’t it slavery?

Somebody can decide whether you are happy/unhappy,

Somebody can decide whether you will be a pleasant human being/ unpleasant human being,

Isn’t it slavery?

What happens within you somebody else determines, it is the worst form of slavery.

It is just that because everybody is like that, it seems to be normal.

But it is not. IT IS NOT NORMAL.

This human being like around you will never happen 100% the way you want it, and it should not happen too.

else, what about others existence and their way and behavior.

This % of happening around your way get varied in every stage of life.

So, if this % decides your pleasantness(please, happiness, joy, content, satisfaction) or unpleasantness(stress, anxiety, fear, tension, madness).

If your pleasant is dependent upon what happens around you, the chances of being pleasant are removed.

 

  • Understanding what’s your inward/outward

When you see anyone by your eyes, is that so-called outside of you?

The light is falling upon that anyone, reflecting, going through your lenses, inverted image in your retina,  (we all know this story)

Where do you see anyone? —–within yourself

where do you hear anyone?—-within yourself

 

So, where have you seen the whole world—-within yourself.

Have you ever experienced anything outside of yourself????

Everything that ever happened to you—-

darkness and light happen within you.

Pain and pleasure happen within you.

joy and misery happen within you.

Have you ever experienced anything outside of yourself???

NO

So. ultimately,

what should happen within you, who should determine how they should have?

Definitely, you should determine.

How your experience of life on this planet is 100% determined by you—If you take charges.

If you leave it loose, anybody else will determine.

 

When somebody so-called betrays you???

Again, you can think They may betray you only because you have the unrealistic expectations of them.

Well, If they do what they want to do, why you think they have betrayed you.

They do whatever they want to do, you should respect them.

If you say—I love them.

If you love a person, should you let them do what they want to do or should they do what you want them to do?

Let them do what they want to do, accept it. It’s love.

What if you think that beloved one is going the wrong way, instead of accepting what they’re doing directly?

It may happen,

But, you don’t take this position that somebody is wrong and you gonna fix them.

They’re doing what they want to do. What they want to do right now, may not be beneficial for them. Possible.

But, you must look at this sincerely, are you complaining because it’s not beneficial for them or you’re complaining because it’s not beneficial for you.

Most of the time we are biased here.

But, if truly they are damaging themselves then you have the right to intervene and try to do best. But not always.

If I have to enter your life and do something for you, I need to earn it. I need to earn a relationship where I can intervene in your life.

If you don’t earn that, you can’t intervene.

If you unable to intervene, you must just understand you have not earned that closeness.  You should see that betray part in this way only again

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Welcome, to the internal monologue of the typical social media scroll. Are you Worried about your Social currency?

I am fat? Owww…I am fat.

S/he is the 19th-year-old, Famous and most happy.

What I am doing with my life?

hey, too likes…nice.

I like this photo.

Are you really need more likes?

Hope, I got invited to the wedding.

well, One more like. Nice. Feeling good about this.

Welcome, to the internal monologue of the typical social media scroll. A monologue that so many of us have every day but we don’t think about it and don’t talk about it.

In fact, many of us, can’t even recognize it happening.

Let’s talk about the unintended consequences of social media having on our mental health, what stressing us every day, and how can we craft to the better experience for ourself online.

Have you ever tried to live any single day without social media?

Turing on plane mode. No social media or even no e-mail.

The first day, As you turn your phone on and off, and you check and it didn’t.

You may start feeling anxious about not posting on social about what you eat, traveling, or some thoughts coming on your mind.

The second day might be easier. You might be thinking I am ridiculous but I hadn’t been completely disconnected over many years. It may be proved as a completely new experience.

 

Now, you may start thinking,

What is social media doing to me?

Well, Here it may be these top 3 diagnoses

!) Anxiety

!!) Depression

!!!)Stress

It is everyone I know, are my friends, my family, my colleagues are on social media. 90% of 18 to 29 year old is on social media. We spend on average 2 hours a day there.  We don’t even eat for 2 hours a day.

Anything we spend this much time doing has the lasting effect on us. 

4 stressors on social media-

!) Highlight Reel

The highlight reel is a collection of the reflection of best and bright moments. The social media is a personal highlight reel.

We struggle with insecurities because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reels.

We are constantly comparing ourself to others. It was also happening before social media with TV and celebrities. But it’s happening all the time.

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Here Is My friend is on vacation. Good.

But, wait!!!

Why I can’t afford a vacation? Why I am just sitting in my room watching random things.

So, if people highlight does well, we encounter the second stress on social media.

!!) Social currency

Just like the rupee, A currency is literary something that we use to attribute value for better service. In social media, these likes, comments and shares have become the form of social currency by which we attribute value to something.

Everything is competing for your attention. You give something “Like” or attention it becomes your recorded transaction attributing value.

It’s great.

But the problem is, In social media, we are the product.

When we put some album on social, it is going to attribute value to us.

We take our product and wait for the perfect time to post and put it here for sale to get values and social currency.  Why we do so,

here it comes the third stressor

!!!) Fear of missing out(FOMO)

Fear of missing is a social anxiety from the fear that you are missing from the potential connection or opportunity.

Study shows –

7/10 students would get rid of their social networking accounts were it not for fear of being left “out of the loop”.

How many times have you considered deactivating your social?

We just not question ourself worth but we question our safety.

Perhaps the worsts stress on social media is next one i.e.

!V) Online harassment

When from social media, you come to know-

Your girlfriend/boyfriend spending time with others.

Someone, sharing your private chat in the public.

Your best friend shares something in social tagging #my_people and you are not there.

And many more.

These micro-moments overtimes become a macro problem.

Maybe we simply can’t focus on work because our notifications are unchecked. It may be due to addiction.

 

Just think,

With every like we get the shower of pleasant feelings as we get social currency.

So, what more we do to feel good, we check “Likes” just for one more time.

We post, just one more time.

(I am doing the same.)

Here, we may get a rising level of anxiety and depression. The FOMO, the distractions, highlight reel, the comparisons …it’s a lot. and it’s all the time.

Grades 7-12 students who spent over 2 hours a day on social media reported higher depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts.

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Many of us like social media,

here all written might you think I want you to get off of it.

But, I don’t.

I don’t see, it’s going anywhere.

Abstinence is not an option, but we can ‘practice safe social’.

But, it doesn’t mean we may practice safe social.

See, everything is written has nothing and everything to do with social media.

I mean, social media neither good or bad.

We can’t abuse plaza Tv for bad shows.

So, why can’t we think, it may not be the dark side of the social media rather dark side of people.

Like, we take down a photo we were excited to share. The dark side is people look our photo of happy moments and wanders their don’t look like that.

 

Here is the good thing,

Recognizing the problem is the first step to fixing it.

Ask yourself, did that social medias’ scrolls make me feel better or worse off.

How many times do I actually check like?

why I am responding to these posts this way?

If you happy after this analysis, it’s good.

else,

Go for the next step-

Create a better online experience

i.e. unfollow the stuff which makes you feel bad, create a better experience to see and feel.

You don’t need to follow your friends because the truth is sometimes our friends or people on our facebook, they just suck online. You may be looking 50 photos of the same concert from the same angle.

You can follow nature, comedian or paintings.

So, it’s better to spend something where you have your favorite things which makes your day, motivated and excited.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Love ___in the air

There is a love existing in this world, I think That’s not the love truly.

There is a love, where we wanna get something

There is a Love, where we wanna get disappeared or mislaid/lose. It’s the love where we are ready to be lost.

You be, I will be lost.——-> This is the love.

So, when our desires get least thinking that – this is the way things must get rearranged or settled because it doesn’t matter what we wish in this particular concern, again because people over here will act the way they want as per their conditioning and behavior.

As our acceptance and intelligence get enhanced, we stop being anger gradually. We come to know there are two types of things in this world –

!) First one, for which we can do something, here we act.

!!) Second, we know where we can’t do anything, we accept it too.

What happens by this, we develop some kind of faith with it, and this faith is not hollow or void.

Definition by the ways of the world, what’s the meaning of faith/religion/God??

>>It’s not the way that,

If I have faith in the almighty God, then everything good gonna happens to me. What a hypocrite, like those who believe they will get good only and those who don’t will suffer and will face the financial problem.

Is it the way the GOD Exist?

What’s the real meaning of Faith??

Whether there something exists or get destroyed,

Whether something Good happens or Bad,

Money comes or Go,

You are hungry, whether you get food or not,

I am doing all my work with my complete effort and potential, whether the result will be again Good or Bad,

It doesn’t matter, as You are with me. This is faith. I accept everything as per your wish.

How simple.

But we are blaming God and Luck.  But, again where is the luck??

We bet something in the past and we might be suffering now.

So need to see the game of life as a game itself, whatever is happening accept it. The problem is we are not ready to accept the reality, getting attached with someone who would leave certainly.

Till the time we wander with attached things, situations or people, there will be a problem.

Till what time these attachments exist??

Till we keep such misconception that we are different from each other.

 

The biggest misconception is that – we consider such attachment as a LOVE. 

Quitting the attachment means we have to live in this world and being here be out of the feelings of win and loss / without any expectations, spending all the happiness and love from deep inside.

The real fact is, where there are expectations, love can’t exist.

Attachment leads to expectations and expectations leads to conflicts and conflict leads to disappointment.

H/SHE is my friends or relative,  so I have these expectations with them and if any of these expectations don’t get fulfilled, it creates conflicts, anger, and diversions.

TO love, to dance and sing from inside, we don’t need any attachment at all.

 

When next time, it will rain, see the rain, observe it –  how it’s raining.

Or, if you are thirsty, don’t take water, complete hour, complete day.

Then drink that water gradually,  you will fall in love with water and water with you.

What is the water for you, ______any relative/ friend or what??

It is LOVE. It is termed as a love

How EARTH is behaving with us is Love,

How and what we are expecting from EARTH is not the love, IT’S SELFISHNESS.

It’s the love where there are no expectations.

If we observe the nature, we come to know nature really love us.

 

How, will we come to know, our current track is right or not???

 

If we see someone in pain, get the feeling of empathy or pain at the same time,

If we see someone in happiness, someone flying/blooming, we don’t need to do anything–we will be the happiest person in the universe.

If so, we are going great.

 

 

 

 

Why should we use Spring? What benefits does Spring provide that we cannot do with normal Java programming?

See, don’t get confused with such big-big answers you may get as I am here with the short and specific answer.

We have 3- types of applications –

1)Standalone application

2)web application

3)mobile application

Particularly talking about Web applications, we need –

1)Presentation logic——-can be performed by HTML, CSS, JS, JSP…

2)DB logic ———-can be performed by JDBC, Hibernate…

3)Business logic———-can be performed by Servlet, Spring, core java, DJB…

So, core java is used to develop the Standalone application.

Now, my answer starts here…

When we have other Business Logic like servlet why we go for Spring?

See, in servlet for we have servlet objects for each functionality of applications

Let us assume Gmail

If we develop Gmail using a servlet, then we need to have

LoginServlet object

ComposeMailServelt object

LogoutServelt object…

And assume there are lots of functionality in Gmail,

So, finally, we need to manage and configure each Servlet object of Gmail in Web. xml.

It’s so time taking and hectic and complex.

So, here comes the role of Spring java application framework.

Spring has one servlet object for all those n no. Of functionalities.

It’s easy ehhhhh.

Additionally….

  1. Spring is an open source enterprise applications framework.
  2. Spring is an important integration technology.
  3. Spring provides infrastructure for building application.
  4. Spring implements IOC.
  5. It manages components of the application. Here, Manage refer to create, initialize, destroy.
  6. Spring has a concept like a Dependency Injection. Dependency Injection is the implementation of IOC. (IOC is implemented by Spring FW)
  7. The aspect-oriented programming language.

So, here is all about it.

Talking additionally about 2) point, we can perform integration between

JDBC and spring,

hibernate and spring,

JDBC and servlet,

hibernate and servlet.

It’s so important in real time project in Corporate.

Hope, you got.

If any query, mail me

raj.alok355@gmail.com

Happy to help.

Hi…hi…my ex, I am happy now.

There are a hundred pains…

Also,

There are a hundred ways of relief.

I have got everything, my dear.

Only you aren’t here.

  • Let me ask you….

Are you feeling just a soulless body?

  • Do you feel and ask….

The breeze that blows haltingly…

Why is it so indifferent…

On the busy streets…

I come flying claimless way.

The heart says…forget it.

Let the time stand still.

If the sea has turned,..

Let the waves stay as they are.

I have a hundred delights.

Only you aren’t here.

You need to read it..

Poem 1 – Apne Hone Par Mujhko Yaqeen Aa Gaya

Pighle neelam sa behta hua ye sama
Neeli-Neeli si khamoshiyaan
Na kahin hai zameen, na kahin Aasmaan
Sarsarati hui tehniyaan, pattiyaan
Keh raheen hai ki bas ek tum ho yahaan
Sirf main hoon
Meri saansein hain aur meri dhadkanein
Aisi gehraiyaan, aisi tanhaiyaan
Aur main sirf main
Apne hone par mujhko yaqeen aa gaya
.

Poem 2- Dil Aakhir Tu Kyun Rota Hai

Jab jab dard ka baadal chhaya
Jab gham ka saya lehraaya
Jab aansoo palkon tak aaya
Jab yeh tanha dil ghabraaya
Hum ne dil ko yeh samjhaya
Dil aakhir tu kyun rota hai?
Duniya mein yun hi hota hai

Yeh jo gehre sannate hain
Waqt ne sabko hi baante hain
Thoda gham hai sabka qissa
Thodi dhoop hai sabka hissa
Aankh teri bekaar hi nam hai
Har pal ek naya mausam hai
Kyun tu aise pal khota hai
Dil aakhir tu kyun rota hai.

Leave the baggage from your heart.

You know what…

Believe me,

It’s the life getting progressed each step ahead with the indication of supreme GOD.

In this way of life…

  1. You will come to know the facts which you need to know to live this life further.
  2. You will meet the person who is required for you to live life ahead
  3. You will get the book to read which is supposed to be read by you
  4. You will get the course, ways, situations, happiness and even sadness which are required now to build you for tomorrow.

You know that’s why we say…

Whatever happens in this life, happens for goodness.

So,

Believe me and don’t act like a child.

You are capable enough to walk alone now with the grace of God only.

The person with whom you got connected and got attached is the one who comes in your life to play his role in your life.

Forget him or her and walk ahead.

You remember…

We used to play a game called Passing Ball in the childhood.

That game is not a simple game.

This game consists of great meaning of life.

In this game,

If you hold the ball for a longer period and the bell get rung,

then we would be punished.

Same way…

Realize and understand …

Why are you holding the person and situation for a longer period?

Drop the same and pass it.

Else, be ready to get punished.

You know

Independent and unattached people can really and truly love each other.

Why you got attached?

This is your problem…avoid this attachment.

Analyse and realize…

And

Don’t ask…

How may I get my lover back?

Actually, you can’t.

Just be true, genuine and spiritual.

When the role of that person will be there in your life, he will definitely be there for you.

Life is too long baby.

Keep patience and act wisely.

Earth is so beautiful place to live.

Enjoy it with your spiritual level.

See, people might be around you, whom you might help.

Concentrate here. Be helpful for needy.

Enjoy the journey instead of praying for someone to be in your life.

Keep smiling.

I wish you lifetime of happiness.

caring for someone and letting them to be with you.

Life is all about race and being forward from others.  But, before going more forward in the journey of your life, you should read it now and start uplifting level of your life more elegantly and confidently with true love.

Good, if you are following the rules of life and understand it.

Good, if you are somehow managed to be forward with respect to your friends.

Good, if you exaggeratedly follow – MY LIFE MY RULE way of living.

Good, if you are stubborn type people and follow your insistence.

Good, if you wanna live your life with your people and you give importance to your people, your current colleague, and people who are making your life simpler and less trouble.

Good, if you live in present with present people.

But, one thing I want to ask.

Do you remember the role of your parents to make you the person currently you are?

Do you remember the role of your past friends to make you the person currently you are?

I would like to salute you, congrats you, If you really know this and remember this.

See, on the way of your journey, you come across many good, gentle and kind-hearted people. You all shared lots of memory together. You helped and received helped. It was beautiful, isn’t it?

But, when time passes, the role and positions of people don’t remain the same. Life teaches us many things and empowers us with many good and bitter experiences.

But, the thing I would like to discuss here-

“how you treat your old friends and parents at the time of being successful.”

From “Being successful” I mean- when you are somewhat forward with respect to your old friends.

So, how you treat them now??????????????

Have you thought???

These are the same people, with whom we all were crazy for those moments spent together.

These are the same people, with whom help got shared.

These are the same people, who laughed with you and cried with you.

These are the same people, who shared tiffins and benches in the classes.

These are the same people, who know some silly and small things about you, which have gone meaningless now.

How you treat them when sometime you meet accidentally and call get connected somehow ???

It’s the best feeling when-

You treat them the same way as you respect them.

You encourage and motivate them.

You give them a few moments of your life.

You help them to sort out the problems of their life.

You care and concern them the same way you used to do.

You try to do some activity to improve them.

You ask about them and never let them feel alone.

You still show gratefulness about their act and you play your role now to uplift them.

See, they need help, sympathy and time from you and they deserve it from you. They have the right to ask about it as they have played their role and responsibility so well when they were supposed to act for you.

I don’t know how you treat them?

But one thing I know,

as I mentioned “being successful”, ok if you are somehow more successful and they are still struggling.

But, one thing you should remember, It’s the race of life, one can’t get defeated until and unless that individual himself leaves the ground of life.

The person who can contribute to making your life beautiful, posses the ability to overpower you.

One thing I want to share-

Out of 100%, 1% of people are really successful.

You know these 1% people are so kind-hearted, philanthropist, caring, concerned about the world, gentleman and above all good human-being.

They almost never cry, but there are tears rolling down from their cheeks as they look at the faces of the misery people, some emotional act, and drama on the stages.

It’s not because they understand it well. The simple reason is they have faced it and they still have the fresh memory of their old days and they recollect all the moments and people who helped them, emotionally, psychologically, mentally, socially uplifted them. They cried in the memory of their moments and people who helped them out.

One thing for definite, due to such feelings and being down to earth, they will be more successful in their life. They are not going to stuck in their life.

Think twice before ill-treating others based on their status/

Don’t forget – they are still in the ground of life and they are capable to defeat anyone.

  1. My life, my way, make such a beautiful way to live gracefully.

What are your thoughts about Microsoft buying GitHub?

 

Microsoft acquired GitHub for $7.5 billion in stock last week, the third largest in Microsoft’s history behind Skype ($8.5B) and LinkedIn ($26.2B). Microsoft paid 30x GitHub’s annual revenue, nearly 5x what they paid for LinkedIn back in 2016.

It might be a matter of being anxious-

➡️Some feared Microsoft will look into their repositories( central file storage location and manipulation, used by version control systems to store multiple versions of files) or make Github become less open sourced as it had done with previous buys.

➡️When our favorite product is gobbled up by a giant — especially one like Microsoft, who has a history of embracing brands… only to destroy them later. Sunrise, a wildly popular calendar app, and Mailbox, a stunning email client, are now both headstones in big tech’s digital graveyard.

➡️There’s serious concern that Microsoft could use the acquisition to advance its own interests at the expense of GitHub’s dedicated community. Maybe they put up LinkedIn-style paywalls. Or, maybe…

Our worst fears seem unlikely to happen for a few reasons. Code hosting startups like Gitlab are waiting to scoop up disgruntled developers. GitHub is also massively popular, with over 28M accounts. Over 15% of AngelList users have linked a GitHub profile to their account.

It might be a matter of being happy-

⏭️What new incoming CEO says –

We are not buying GitHub to turn it into Microsoft; we are buying GitHub because we believe in the importance of developers.” This comes from GitHub’s incoming CEO Nat Friedman in a Reddit AMA.

⏭️What Satya Nadella told about it

Microsoft + GitHub = Empowering Developers – Microsoft |”Microsoft is a developer-first company, and by joining forces with GitHub we strengthen our commitment to developer freedom, openness, and innovation,”.

⏭️Linux Foundation executive director Jim Zemlin eased developers’ fears after Microsoft purchase,

saying that this is ‘good news’ for open source as the firm has the means to improve the platform.

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Developers, developers, developers

The acquisition price can’t fully be explained by GitHub’s revenues ($200M). Analysts believe the market value of GitHub was closer to $3B, which means Microsoft paid an extra $4 billion dollars for something.

Developers matter to Microsoft. Microsoft needs software engineers to build applications on the Windows platform for it to be useful.

But over the past decade, developers have been busy building on Android, iOS, Facebook, Google Cloud, and AWS, leaving Microsoft feeling the bitter sting of unrequited love.

Microsoft is fighting back by embedding itself into developer workflows. The most important tool for many developers is their text editor: Microsoft VS Code has become the editor of choice amongst many AngelList engineers.

Microsoft acquired a beloved product central in the lives of developers: only time will tell whether everybody sticks around.