I am fat? Owww…I am fat.
S/he is the 19th-year-old, Famous and most happy.
What I am doing with my life?
hey, too likes…nice.
I like this photo.
Are you really need more likes?
Hope, I got invited to the wedding.
well, One more like. Nice. Feeling good about this.
Welcome, to the internal monologue of the typical social media scroll. A monologue that so many of us have every day but we don’t think about it and don’t talk about it.
In fact, many of us, can’t even recognize it happening.
Let’s talk about the unintended consequences of social media having on our mental health, what stressing us every day, and how can we craft to the better experience for ourself online.
Have you ever tried to live any single day without social media?
Turing on plane mode. No social media or even no e-mail.
The first day, As you turn your phone on and off, and you check and it didn’t.
You may start feeling anxious about not posting on social about what you eat, traveling, or some thoughts coming on your mind.
The second day might be easier. You might be thinking I am ridiculous but I hadn’t been completely disconnected over many years. It may be proved as a completely new experience.
Now, you may start thinking,
What is social media doing to me?
Well, Here it may be these top 3 diagnoses
It is everyone I know, are my friends, my family, my colleagues are on social media. 90% of 18 to 29 year old is on social media. We spend on average 2 hours a day there. We don’t even eat for 2 hours a day.
Anything we spend this much time doing has the lasting effect on us.
4 stressors on social media-
!) Highlight Reel
The highlight reel is a collection of the reflection of best and bright moments. The social media is a personal highlight reel.
We struggle with insecurities because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reels.
We are constantly comparing ourself to others. It was also happening before social media with TV and celebrities. But it’s happening all the time.
Here Is My friend is on vacation. Good.
Why I can’t afford a vacation? Why I am just sitting in my room watching random things.
So, if people highlight does well, we encounter the second stress on social media.
!!) Social currency
Just like the rupee, A currency is literary something that we use to attribute value for better service. In social media, these likes, comments and shares have become the form of social currency by which we attribute value to something.
Everything is competing for your attention. You give something “Like” or attention it becomes your recorded transaction attributing value.
But the problem is, In social media, we are the product.
When we put some album on social, it is going to attribute value to us.
We take our product and wait for the perfect time to post and put it here for sale to get values and social currency. Why we do so,
here it comes the third stressor
!!!) Fear of missing out(FOMO)
Fear of missing is a social anxiety from the fear that you are missing from the potential connection or opportunity.
Study shows –
7/10 students would get rid of their social networking accounts were it not for fear of being left “out of the loop”.
How many times have you considered deactivating your social?
We just not question ourself worth but we question our safety.
Perhaps the worsts stress on social media is next one i.e.
!V) Online harassment
When from social media, you come to know-
Your girlfriend/boyfriend spending time with others.
Someone, sharing your private chat in the public.
Your best friend shares something in social tagging #my_people and you are not there.
And many more.
These micro-moments overtimes become a macro problem.
Maybe we simply can’t focus on work because our notifications are unchecked. It may be due to addiction.
With every like we get the shower of pleasant feelings as we get social currency.
So, what more we do to feel good, we check “Likes” just for one more time.
We post, just one more time.
(I am doing the same.)
Here, we may get a rising level of anxiety and depression. The FOMO, the distractions, highlight reel, the comparisons …it’s a lot. and it’s all the time.
Grades 7-12 students who spent over 2 hours a day on social media reported higher depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts.
Many of us like social media,
here all written might you think I want you to get off of it.
But, I don’t.
I don’t see, it’s going anywhere.
Abstinence is not an option, but we can ‘practice safe social’.
But, it doesn’t mean we may practice safe social.
See, everything is written has nothing and everything to do with social media.
I mean, social media neither good or bad.
We can’t abuse plaza Tv for bad shows.
So, why can’t we think, it may not be the dark side of the social media rather dark side of people.
Like, we take down a photo we were excited to share. The dark side is people look our photo of happy moments and wanders their don’t look like that.
Here is the good thing,
Recognizing the problem is the first step to fixing it.
Ask yourself, did that social medias’ scrolls make me feel better or worse off.
How many times do I actually check like?
why I am responding to these posts this way?
If you happy after this analysis, it’s good.
Go for the next step-
Create a better online experience
i.e. unfollow the stuff which makes you feel bad, create a better experience to see and feel.
You don’t need to follow your friends because the truth is sometimes our friends or people on our facebook, they just suck online. You may be looking 50 photos of the same concert from the same angle.
You can follow nature, comedian or paintings.
So, it’s better to spend something where you have your favorite things which makes your day, motivated and excited.